Glory

I’m keenly aware that last time I stuck my neck out, it was chopped off. Such an inglorious fall from grace must surely not be repeated? Yet, I’m also assured that my body does not belong to me but to the true head, who is Christ. So, as painful as it is to be humbled by others and brought low in circumstances, none can compare to the sacrifice made by Christ on the cross at Calvary.

The joy that surpasses all understanding is mine despite the shape of my body, the soundness of mind or emotion, the clarity of speech, the winsomeness of my writing; God has revealed to me time and again in His Word and whispers, ‘You are mine.’

I, forsaking all others, have pinned my hopes and fears upon the cross. As Christ’s bride, we all acknowledge that there is no person on earth that deserves the glory that is bestowed upon the Son of God by the Spirit at work within us.

We need not be ashamed of our words and deeds, nor the possibility of wrong motives, for we present ourselves as a living sacrifice and God accepts our humble deeds in the midst of our messy lives as acceptable to Him. God’s love is boundless and eternal, it covers over all our sins and washes us -sanctifies us – so that we may remain in His presence for eternity.

To God Be the Glory, Amen.

 

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Recovery 101: How to recover from an abusive situation in work or personal life

Truth Telling

Silence is your own worst enemy. If you have been subjected to abuse you must tell the appropriate authorities as soon as you become aware of it; whether it was one or two instances or dozens of incidences over many years, whether it was mildly coercive and seemingly unintentional or blatantly berating behaviour.

Abuse occurs when there is an imbalance of power, so speaking out about it means you will have to deal with that imbalance of power and authority and risk suffering secondary abuse due to inappropriate actions being taken against you. Alternatively, there may be a complete disregard for the safety and well-being of those affected by the abuse by people in authority, or by those closest to you. This should not deter you from speaking out. Write down everything that happened as best you can to help you with truth-telling to the authorities.

If you are in a situation where you cannot foresee your case being heard and dealt with in an appropriate way, talking to your GP or the justice department may help you receive good advice and will also validate the seriousness of your claims. (Justice Department: Work Health and Safety or the Police Department).

The abusers may never experience the consequences of their actions in this life, but it is important for the victims of abuse to speak out to someone about it, for the sake of their own health and wellbeing.

Self-Care

Find a few trusted friends, preferably one who is not connected to the situation and ask if they could be a support person as you go through recovery. This may take a while to find the right person; it may be a few people that you are able to share your feelings with. Friends only need to know that you are going through a hard time and may be able to point to healthy activities that will enable you to improve your emotional health. Stay clear of alcohol, drugs or other risky activities and opt for nature walks, movies, dinner out, a weekend away, or a new hobby or group such as singing, book clubs, or gardening.

You can choose not to share the details of the abuse with friends and only share those details with a confidential Specialist Psychologist, GP or Counsellor.

If you are unable to work because of the abuse, seek help early for career advice, take a break from work if financially possible and do some study until you feel ready to approach a new work situation.

Safe Boundaries

Avoid speaking about the person(s) at all in conversation in public. If people want to know what happened to you (‘where have you been?’) and ask you about it, you can choose not to discuss it at all so as not to trigger those emotions that are a normal reaction to abusive situations and people.

If you see your abuser in public, be polite if you must speak to them then you can choose to walk away. If the abuser replies with a harmful comment about you, let those words go immediately and know that you are doing the right thing by speaking out and staying away. Wherever possible, continue your normal routine and go to the places that you enjoy going to.

A Clean Mind

When thoughts rush in about words and situations that caused harm, remember that those words were probably intended to harm you – this is difficult to do, but if you allow those words to continue to harm you, the abuser will continue to have power and control over your life and emotions. This is unacceptable.

Healthy and Diverse Work and Personal Relationships

Most organisations will have a zero tolerance for bullying or any form of abuse, if they do not have such a policy, consider finding employment with an organisation who does have a sound policy for unacceptable behaviour. When finding work, be clear with yourself and with your employer about your values for workplace relationships.

Be clear about your values in friendships and relationships in social clubs or any other group – do not allow yourself to be bullied by others who do not understand what has happened to you.You do not need to tell them the details of the abuse in order for them to believe you or be ‘on your side’. Protect yourself from further harm.

A Hope and a Future

Time is a great healer, however most abuse will continue to be remembered and may have an effect on your life for many years. The guidance in this article is meant to encourage and strengthen victims of abuse – know that you are not alone, do not give up hope in finding help or a safe place to live, work and recreate. If these suggestions are not helpful for you, take some time to write down what has been helpful or is likely to help and take steps to consider practicing these things regularly. It is important that we break the silence on this issue and ensure healing from the past and prevention for the future on the problem of abuse.

Find in your life story memories that are edifying and acknowledge those memories more often through journaling, story writing or art. Turn to pursuits that will give you space, peace, and build resilience so that you can look forward to the future. Helping others who have been through similar difficulties is a gift that life experience brings, but ensure that you have received all the help you need before you look to the needs of others.

Resources

This article was written by an abuse survivor who is trained in conflict resolution, leadership and management, workplace communication, mental health first aid and pastoral care.

Recovery can be a long journey there are many resources and organisations that are available to help you. Some of these are listed below and I can personally recommend. (Australia/ USA)

White Ribbon: www.whiteribbon.org.au

To Write Love on Her Arms: www.twloha.com

Beyond Blue: www.beyondblue.org.au

Lifeline: www.lifeline.org.au

Anglicare (Australia): www.anglicare.org.au

Mental Health First Aid Course (MHFA International): www.mhfa.com.au

Mental Illness (SANE Australia): www.sane.org

Sexual abuse: (SASS): www.sass.org.au

Sexual abuse: 1800RESPECT: www.1800RESPECT.org.au

Mercy and Forgiveness

Matthew 18: 21-35

The Parable of the Unmerciful Servant

21 Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?”

22 Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.

23 “Therefore, the kingdom of heaven is like a king who wanted to settle accounts with his servants. 24 As he began the settlement, a man who owed him ten thousand bags of gold was brought to him. 25 Since he was not able to pay, the master ordered that he and his wife and his children and all that he had be sold to repay the debt.

26 “At this the servant fell on his knees before him. ‘Be patient with me,’ he begged, ‘and I will pay back everything.’ 27 The servant’s master took pity on him, canceled the debt and let him go.

28 “But when that servant went out, he found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred silver coins.[i] He grabbed him and began to choke him. ‘Pay back what you owe me!’ he demanded.

29 “His fellow servant fell to his knees and begged him, ‘Be patient with me, and I will pay it back.’

30 “But he refused. Instead, he went off and had the man thrown into prison until he could pay the debt. 31 When the other servants saw what had happened, they were outraged and went and told their master everything that had happened.

32 “Then the master called the servant in. ‘You wicked servant,’ he said, ‘I canceled all that debt of yours because you begged me to. 33 Shouldn’t you have had mercy on your fellow servant just as I had on you?’ 34 In anger his master handed him over to the jailers to be tortured, until he should pay back all he owed.

35 “This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother or sister from your heart.”


‘I know a minister who preaches about the Kingdom of God as ‘the kindness’. She suggests we invite and inhabit it, allowing it to come towards us. Kindness comes in our daily life away from the corridors of power. The Kindness assumes accessibility. It is similar to the way Jesus spoke in agricultural images to farming communities in Galilee. He assumed the Kingdom of God as something already there for the seeking and finding.’ –Julie Perrin.

On reading the gospel account of the unmerciful servant, we hear Peter questioning Jesus ‘how many times should we forgive one another?’ Jesus replies by telling Peter about forgiveness in the Kingdom of God. The unmerciful servant is the sinner who owes a great debt to the King who is God, the Master is Jesus who takes pity on the servant. Although the servant is the guilty party and is obligated to repay, yet the Master forgives him and sets him free from his burden of guilt and sin. Mercy and forgiveness in this story is a kindness that promotes generosity and understanding, rather than harsh punishment, retribution or anger. We can, in our own life experience, imagine owing someone a great debt that we are unable to pay – rather than the case being dragged through the courts, all charges are dropped and the debt is cancelled. Have we ever been on the receiving end of such generosity and kindness? Would we pass it on to others?

In the Kingdom of God, we are like Peter, seeking advice from Jesus, wanting to know how to relate to one another, how to live together when things are difficult when we are hurt or offended by others. Jesus teaches us to remember that we are God’s servants who have been shown great mercy, forgiveness, and loving-kindness. Our burden of guilt and shame and resentment is forgiven when we come before God and lay our burden down and place our trust in the sacrifice of Jesus for our sins. God strengthens us to love others by His Spirit at work within us, we are free to give the same mercy and forgiveness that God has shown to us.

The servant in this story had a grateful heart to his Master for cancelling the debt he owed, yet, he was unable to pass on such kindness to his fellow servant. Forgiveness is not a curt apology through gritted teeth, like a child in a schoolyard – but it is the gracious loving-kindness that is the gift of God’s Kingdom, it is the source of peace for us, peace with God and with others.

We cannot find this kindness within ourselves, the pain of hurt and broken human relationships is very real. We can find healing and forgiveness for ourselves and others through prayer with our merciful God, listening to God’s word as it speaks to us by the Holy Spirit. God’s love flows from within his people, like a spring of water coming up out of a dry desert, giving life to others.

Lord, help us to forgive others as you have forgiven us, grant us your peace, May the peace of God that surpasses all understanding, guard our hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. Amen.

Psalm 114:7-8 ‘Tremble, O earth, at the presence of the Lord, at the presence of the God of Jacob, who turns the rock into a pool of water, the flint into a spring of water.’

A Heart Full of Joy

Mt 13:1-9, 18-23

The Parable of the Sower

13 That same day Jesus went out of the house and sat beside the sea. Such great crowds gathered around him that he got into a boat and sat there, while the whole crowd stood on the beach. And he told them many things in parables, saying: “Listen! A sower went out to sow. And as he sowed, some seeds fell on the path, and the birds came and ate them up. Other seeds fell on rocky ground, where they did not have much soil, and they sprang up quickly, since they had no depth of soil. But when the sun rose, they were scorched; and since they had no root, they withered away. Other seeds fell among thorns, and the thorns grew up and choked them. Other seeds fell on good soil and brought forth grain, some a hundredfold, some sixty, some thirty. Let anyone with ears listen!”

The Parable of the Sower Explained

18 “Hear then the parable of the sower. 19 When anyone hears the word of the kingdom and does not understand it, the evil one comes and snatches away what is sown in the heart; this is what was sown on the path. 20 As for what was sown on rocky ground, this is the one who hears the word and immediately receives it with joy; 21 yet such a person has no root, but endures only for a while, and when trouble or persecution arises on account of the word, that person immediately falls away. 22 As for what was sown among thorns, this is the one who hears the word, but the cares of the world and the lure of wealth choke the word, and it yields nothing. 23 But as for what was sown on good soil, this is the one who hears the word and understands it, who indeed bears fruit and yields, in one case a hundredfold, in another sixty, and in another thirty.”


The parable of the Sower uses familiar imagery to help us understand Jesus’ words. For those of you who enjoy gardening, or have spent time farming the land – you would know first-hand the tireless work and long days spent preparing the soil and tending a crop of food for harvest. When the weather and weeds spoil the crop, it is a source of frustration and grief, that the hard work has not been productive.

When Jesus spoke to his followers, they were ordinary men accustomed to hard work, the first thing Jesus said was, ‘Listen!’ In the parable of the sower, we are told six times that the seed of faith is received by hearing God’s word. God’s word is described in the Psalm as ‘Words of life’, they are ‘a lamp to the feet and a light to the path’, these ‘righteous laws’ are ‘his heritage forever’, and also ‘a joy to my heart.’

A heart full of joy is what the gospel promises to those who hear God’s word and receive it faithfully. Yet, the gospel story tells us that not everyone will want to listen, some will not understand, others will give up in times of suffering, yet another will be concerned about the things of this world, like money and possessions. Following Jesus was not an easy task; it required faithful obedience and enduring struggles and hardship. Their reward was God’s gift of faith and the promise of eternal life – this gift is given freely to all who hear God’s word and receive it – the seed of faith implanted in our hearts when we believe that Jesus died and rose again to save us from our wrongdoing and bring us into relationship with our Creator God.

When we go about our day, enjoying the plants of the garden, as we look outside at the sun and rain nourishing the soil of the earth, we are reminded of God’s provision, the miracle of His creation and His promises to us. When we see one another in our community and our families, we are reminded that God calls us to faithfully love and care for one another.

We thank God for giving us his grace and love and pray that we might have the opportunity to share God’s love with others, that we would grow in faith in the joyful hope of his eternal blessings, in Jesus name, Amen.

The Faceless Name

There are no faces to put to this Name

Love bears no resemblance to the tunes played

or the dreams that never fade

of the faces you made

or the names we gave.

The faceless, nameless, tuneless, wide-awake LOVE

is simply void of haste, waste, hate, fate and belly-ache.

The pain in my centre is simply love restrained.

The love pours forth all sorts of words and noises.

It rests, content, to restore and pour out again.

Any thought against it churns in vain.

 

Words of love:

– σπλαγχνιζομαι (splanchnizomai) – pity or compassion, means to be moved in one’s internal or vital organs. (Matthew 9:36)

Words of warning:

– ἐμβριμαομαι (embrimaomai) – to groan in Spirit, to be deeply moved (like a horse snorting sound). (John 11:33)

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Accidentally Cult Street

One of my less-glamorous true stories is that I came to the Christian faith through a street evangelist who was a member of a Christian cult. I refuse to be embarrassed about this. As a genuine seeker – walking towards the Hari Krishna band – I was intercepted by a woman in her mid-20’s who invited me to her church and sat with me in a cafe to read the bible. When I was confronted by the gospel, though sheepishly looking around to see who might see us with a BIBLE open in PUBLIC, I was convicted by the truth of who Jesus was and what He did for us, and immediately turned my life toward knowing God and being known and loved by Him.

In the month that followed, I was welcomed with generous hospitality into the homes of fellow church members and felt a sense of being part of God’s family. I hungrily read my bible at home, though soon enough alarm bells sounded for me when I heard those fateful words from her ‘we are the only church to be saved.’ The countdown was on, it was only a few weeks later I cut myself off from that lovely, though misguided community and found myself receiving the generous hospitality and biblical teaching of a Baptist Church in Sydney’s West. Praise God. The whole inter-denominational community opened up to me at the Katoomba convention and I’ve never looked back, always relishing the taste of the Kingdom on earth wherever I worship.

I would like to say that all of that is behind me, however, it took many years of listening and learning to ‘weed out’ (pertinent expression!) the false doctrine that I was taught in those first few weeks as a baby believer. The spiritual milk was a bit off, and I needed a lot of extra nourishment to grow strong and mature in my faith. Even now, as I wander the earth through the different stages of my life, I come across the same idea in otherwise doctrinally sound church communities. The red flag is hoisted when I hear ‘we are the only healthy church around here,’ or a red-faced teacher adamantly insisting that his point of view on a matter of faith is to be obeyed (or else!).

This my-way-or-the-highway view of ecclesiastical issues has many faithful and dedicated souls hitch-hiking their way from crumbling sandstone building to urban chrysalis hoping to find a healthy kind of ecumenicalism. Those, like me, who do not wish to be judged for the denominations of their past. For me, my spiritual home is wherever I lay my coat and pick up a name tag – although I’ve been known to use the Royal ‘We’ when referring to the Anglican Church, it is, in fact, our Kingdom royalty that expresses the words We Believe. I am traveling toward a place where We stand on common ground and can have arm wrestles over doctrinal implications. A place where We allow grace and truth to season us as we mature, forgiving and giving one another the opportunity to be transformed in our mind and hearts, and loving one-another as Christ intended for his bride, the church.

Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled, and do not let them be afraid. John 14:27

I pray that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in his holy people, Ephesians 1:18

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eveangelical.

ζωηγγελιος – ζωη – ‘life’ from Septuagint and ‘ἐυαγγελιον’ – good news, gospel messenger.

A woman of God who proclaims the good news of Jesus Christ, obeying Christ’s commission to make disciples of all nations by sharing God’s word with all people. As Eve and Adam were given authority by God to rule and subdue creation together, the eveangelical woman is redeemed in Christ to work alongside men and other women as a creative counterpart. They do not seek power or glory or authority for themselves but give glory to God in all things, men and women in mutual submission to their Creator, both made in His image.

The eveangelical woman gives respect to God–ordained authority and institutions – humbly accepting that we are all marred by sin – relying on God’s power at work in His people. Relying on God’s strength and wisdom she will use God’s gifts, as given to all His people, to build up and encourage the body of Christ. She will pray for God to increase her faith, to give her greater gifts, not to boast, but to serve God in any context to which she is called.

The eveangelical woman is made in God’s image and is purposed since the creation of mankind to give life to others, through physical birth, spiritual guidance, exhortation and encouragement, humble service of others in prayer and hospitality. She is not saved by these actions, but the gifts of God are for the people of God, given to women and men to serve one another. But the greatest calling is to proclaim new life in Christ so that all will turn to Him in faith.

She is humble in her speech but courageous in her actions, she is assured of her salvation through faith in Christ, and devotes herself to the study of God’s word and prayer. She relies on God’s strength made perfect in her weakness and is patient in suffering, dealing graciously with the weak and vulnerable to reflect the love of God to others. She is teachable yet discerning and grows in spiritual maturity by lifting others. Her life, created and redeemed by God, is life-giving and her reliance on God’s word as a source of comfort and strength becomes her witness and testimony to all who know her. She acknowledges God’s order in creation and seeks to emulate this by redeeming the day with her time and energy, as God is sanctifying the work of her hands. She will not want to place any person in the position that Christ holds as her personal Saviour.

The eveanglical woman values community and fosters genuine relationships with neighbours, family, friends and church community.  She depends on God who knows and loves her first, and delights in praises of God, not seeking undue praise for herself or honouring others above God. She is aware of her limits and readily makes sacrifices in her daily life, as she is led by reflective prayer, in the Spirit and the Word. She discerns God’s will for her life and disciples and influences those within her sphere, desiring to enlarge God’s Kingdom, through gentleness and love, not coercion or force. She continually gives thanks for the fruit of the Spirit working in the life of every believer, and the Spirit’s work in those to whom God is revealing Himself.

The Spirit of God has made me,

    and the breath of the Almighty gives me life. – Job 33.4